Thursday , 19 April 2018

“Ladies, Your Husband Is Your Master And Not Your Equal” – Pastor Chris Oyakhilome


Most problems in marriages today started when individual men started forming churches and making their wife head of marriage counseling, and their wife started propagating funny doctrines with the support of their husband (the Pastor) claiming that husband and wife are equal.

Husband and wife are equal in the whites’ court marriage were either party can walk away once they are tired by going back to court and get divorce papers. But it is not same with Bible and Quaran.

Read Pastor Chris Oyakhilome’s position:

Husband does not mean the male partner in a marriage, husband means master. The reason for most problems in Christian marriages is the fact that women refute God’s definition of marriage and form theirs. They believe they are equal partners. If most women had their fathers bold enough to talk to them, they will be very successful in their marriage and they will be very happy people. Most women have never been taught by their parents, their fathers particularly and that’s their biggest problem because they don’t know who a man is, they think he is another woman.

In marriage, you have the man who is the head of that union and because he’s the head of that union, its important to understand him. You think he’s the one that needs to understand his wife and that is where you are wrong. He will eventually but you have to know the type of man you are married to and his needs.When you say you are marrying a man, you are coming under his authority. The Bible says, the man is the head of the woman (1 Corinthians 11:3) so when you marry him you come under his authority, you are not authority sharers even though you are both heirs to the kingdom of God.When you decide not to subject yourself to that authority, you are a rebel and God is not going to accept what you are doing because you are not functioning correctly.

Why did God make the woman?Making woman was not God’s original plan because after God created Adam and before He made Eve, He said in Genesis 1:31 “Then God looked over all he had made, and he saw that it was very good”. God made woman because of man so woman was not His original idea. This is reality.Genesis 2:18a “And the Lord God said “for it is not good for a man to be alone..” The Bible didn’t say “lonely” but “alone”. There is a big difference. Man wasn’t lonely but alone. Genesis 2:18b “…I will make him an help meet”. He didn’t say a partner or a supervisor or a special advisor or someone to tell him what to do.I will make him someone to help him. God gave man a responsibility so woman was made to help man achieve that responsibility.

If this is understood in every home then you won’t have problems.I tell people that you don’t need a marriage seminar, you need the Word Seminar.

Let me tell you, no husband wants another mother, he has had one all his life. He doesn’t want an older sister, he probably had one.Your secret is in obedience, your secret is in listening to your husband, your secret is in doing the things that please him. When you don’t do the things that please him, you take the role of a mother or of an older sister. A man loves the one he serves (God) and the one that serves him (a good wife). He fights the one that wants to be at the same level with him (a rebellious wife).

To be happy in your family and home is the easiest thing in the world, just take your role. Take your place. That place that God gave you is a beautiful place. Its a place of peace. Its a place of love. It’s a place of excellence. Every wise person listens to wise voices (advice) but he listens to a wise voice that is presented wisely. Everyone rebels against the voice that is trying to make a fool out of him. When you want to correct your husband, don’t lord it over him,present it as a wise suggestion. Humble yourself and be smart. A wise woman will always be an influence to her husband, the foolish one will always annoy the husband, make him mad, make him angry and when you make him angry, you will be the victim.

Learn to listen to your husband, practice it, tell yourself that you are going to do it because that is where your beauty is.Once you stop listening, your beauty evaporates. You wonder why you are dressing and he can’t see it, he doesn’t remember your last hair style. Beauty is in obedience. That’s where the Glory is.



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  1. I live this truth.let’s respect each others position.

  2. I love this truth.let’s respect each others position.

  3. That’s absolutely correct. The man is the head of the house.

  4. This is an absolute truth and the only truth

  5. I really like that ad all u have said is truth ad thank u for. That sir

  6. Not wholly accurate. The man is the head truth. The man is the Master – wrong. He is a leader and not a master.

  7. Rev. Davidson Ahedor

    The man is the head not master.

    • @Rev Davidson Master=male head of a household.
      ‘the master of the house’
      Most you be contradictory? If you read the entire piece and understand what he is saying is true then the issue of the caption / header is baseless ,,leader.. master head …all litrarily means the same…

  8. Says a man who has had a failed marriage
    Men and women are equal because spirit has no gender, lets us learn to respect and uphold ladies and we will be the best men ever .Most of us will not be here if not for the help of women.

    • Well said. He should have remembered Hosea…
      a help mate helps you win the race. Although you carry the trophy everyone know the trophy belongs to both because without the helpmate you’d have no trophy.

      A master, a leader, only because God wanted to hold someone accountable. Remember how Adam shifted the blame in the garden regardless of the fact that he got the instructions from God as he landed there first.

      Stop demeaning *the woman, what if the helpmate was exactly another man. Perhaps at this rate there would have been lesser men.

      Humans are equal. Respect equally.

  9. man is the head and leader not master,and also they have to submitting to one another in the fear of God.Eph.5:21-33.Amen.

    • See the comparison in that scripture, ” women be submissive to your husband as church is to Christ ” meaning the same way Christ is the master of the church, husband is the master of the woman

  10. What about Lilith ?

  11. True word of God thanks sir more grace

  12. True word of God keep up

  13. 1 Pet. 3:6 reads “…as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord…” “Leader” not “master” is a question-begging fine tunning. I am no fan of Chris but he spoke God’s word here

  14. Why did God make the woman?Making woman was not God’s original plan because after God created Adam and before He made Eve, He said in Genesis 1:31 “Then God looked over all he had made, and he saw that it was very good”. God made woman because of man so woman was not His original idea. This is very laughable, so God can make two of the same kind for animals and not so with human, is this person saying God didn’t know the end from the beginning, that you’ll say woman was not God’s original plan. So Adam was not meant to procreate or was he meant to do so with a female of another kind, please ppl should stop preaching what dey can never have an infinite knowledge about.

    • So Jesus Christ that doesn’t have a female partner now doesn’t have sons? HEB 2:10

      ‘Procreate’ you think carnally. You don’t understand God’s intent and purpose.

  15. This is the absolute truth .If the truth(Gods word) is adhered to properly marital issues and breakdowns will minimize and peace will reign in marriages.

  16. It’s well with we women

  17. This is it sir. I love you

  18. This master should behave as a master too. Some men are just …….

  19. That’s a great ! Yes the husband is the head and the leader and hence the one whk gives the final authority,
    But I don’t agree when he says woman was an afterthought!
    From the bible, Gen 1:27-28, In God’s original intention, woman was in man!
    That is why God declared in Gen 2: 18 that it’s not good for the Man to be alone!
    The same God who said everything he had made was good, also declared that ….it was not GOOD for the Man to be alone!
    So women are not AFTER THOUGHTS!

    Yes, man was not LONELY……Meaning wasn’t feeling sad for being single or without anyone of his kind But Man Was ALONE….and God himself said that was not good…..ALONE ….meaning without companionship or helper.
    So Woman is to help Man. So the man/ husband is the boss or leader.

    But that does not mean Woman/wife is inferior, and
    I think most marriages are not mirroring Christ and the Church, his Bride that’s why we have divorces and marriages not working even amongst Christian.

    From Ephesians 5…..Paul teaches husband and wife their specific roles which are MUTUALLY EXCLUSIVE!
    So the husband is to LOVE the wife as CHRIST LOVES the CHURCH regardless, and the Wife must respect and SUBMIT to the husband AS THE CHURCH SUBMIT to Christ regardless!

    Sometimes, I say some men/husbands have been the cause of some women/wives rebelling, because throughout history and even in my own mothers life, women/wives have bullied, cheated upon, treated as second class humans….and hence, as some women began to be enlightened, rebelled. Which should not be.

    So for a marriage to be successful, both husband and wife must play their roles irrespective of the other…..the ultimate aim is to please God!

  20. Very true sir. You have hit the nail wit the hammer. U are a rare gem

  21. I want a woman who will be my mother. It all depends on how you see a woman, but for any one to think God made him a master over his woman will surely encounter problem. Perhaps, his marriage failed because of this. I don’t like this message at all. Stick to what works for you.

  22. Any man that know that he is the head and act that way as the head of the house will definately be respected

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